December 14th, 2009
Although I want to encourage industry of all kinds, there is a tech item being used by the teenagers that scares me for their future wellbeing.
In a short conversation the other day with a young man, his cell phone notified him at least 10 times that he had a text. I asked him if this happened all the time and he replied, YES. It was a girl texting him over and over again.
This made me aware of the dangers that could lurk in the future, as texting is used to condition young people so they may become CONTROL FREAKS (text stalkers) or easily become the victim of a CONTROL FREAK.
These young adults should not have to answer to anyone but their parents or caretakers about “where they are and what they are doing” and also this may constitute “peer pressures, run amuck”. These are exactly the techniques a domestic violent criminal employs to gain absolute control of their victim. Now, texting can be used as their stalking weapon of choice, thus making the abuser capable of constantly having their abusive thumb on the victim’s whereabouts and activities. Is this appropriate? Or Whack-O behavior?
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Tags: control, parents, stalking
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December 2nd, 2009
The facts are simple. If a child watches a behavior repeated over and over again by their parents, that child will consider the behavior acceptable.
We have all heard our children say something that they heard us say. When we hear them speak those words, we are immediately ashamed because we know they heard us say those words.
When good actions are witnessed and repeated we are proud as peacocks. But parents must always remember that undesirable actions will also be learned as acceptable by children, when they witness their parent’s actions.
Most every domestically violent crime occurring is one that an adult witnessed happening in their homes when they were a child.
Most every domestically violent crime victim has witnessed their parent be victim of the same crime when they were a child.
Especially, when something is done over and over again….
How many times do you think a behavior needs to be seen happening before it is remembered by a child? We don’t know, but what we do know is that the more times that domestic violence crimes are witnessed the better chance that it will be a learned for the child to repeat the behavior when they become adults.
This is one of the supporting reasons why domestic violence crimes are increasing in numbers with each generation having families of their own.
For the children’s sake we must make changes.
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Tags: abuser, children, crime, epidemic, victim
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November 26th, 2009
Allow me to establish the truth… domestic violence or domestic abuse is a “CRIME” and a silent epidemic.
Domestic Violence or Crime is an epidemic because…..
1. With each generation, both young boys and girls are taught “by example” to be either a victim or a practitioner by witnessing the violence in their home they are most likely to mimic as adults. If each family infected with this scourge of domestic criminal behavior, had an average of 2 children, then it may conceivably result in a 200% increase as those two children constitute another generation.
2. Because of the secretive nature and being ignored by society the violent and criminal behavior is allowed to continue unchecked.
3. Further, in my opinion, the solutions that are being considered as the remedy of domestic violence are not principled solutions for eradication.
The Stealthy Violence and Crimes are Silent because…
1. The victim believes “from training” that their best chance of survival lies in not allowing anyone to be aware of the abuse.
2. Even if family becomes aware of the violence, the victim is isolated from the family and friends by the criminal so that the problem and its level of severity are unknown.
3. Members of the public are uncomfortable with interfering. So this violence again continues unchecked. Remember “bad things happen when good people do nothing”.
4. Law enforcement remains uneducated and not trained to understand the quirky-illogical behavior of the victim, which does not match the behavior of a victim needing, help.
So let’s move forward with addressing
& eradicating the epidemic effects
of this crime.
Separation & Isolation
- Separate and constrain those that have the criminal behavior.
- Separate and support the victims of the crime.
Identify
- We identify the at-risk groups for becoming these criminals or victims.
Alternatives
- Determine measures to prevent these groups from falling prey to these crimes or becoming the domestic criminals.
Education
- Education will be needed for these at-risk groups to help prevent them
from becoming victims and criminally violent perpetrators of tomorrow.
Rebuild Lives
- The rebuilding of lives can start now with controls in place to prevent new criminal acts from occurring in families, we then can address those that are victims of these domestic violence crimes.
Vigilance
- We will have to be vigilant in identifying and monitoring to stop any symptoms from developing into the full blown criminal behavior resulting in new victims of this crime.
Independence
- We equip the victims with the skills for them to lead lives of independence and pride.
- Finally we will have stopped both the “Cheerleader Syndrome” and the “Macho Master Syndrome” leading to the desired eradication of the Criminal activity and the resulting harm done to its victims.
This is the first post in a series that will discuss each point in more detail. I hope you will follow the series and be as eager to read the post and discuss these topics as I am.
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Tags: abuser, children, crime, epidemic, independence, isolated, law enforcement, secret, victim, vigilance
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November 12th, 2009
The goal of this blog is to educate and empower women because of the knowledge that can be gained from this and the following sources.
We aim to provide information every woman needs for herself and her children that could change or save their lives! We must stand up for the rights and protection of women and enforcement of the laws that would protect us! The book “Family Terror” is not a gothic romance novel for women to read. Many of the books that I have read about abuse are based and read like such novels. This is a very serious situation and I want women to know the dangers and to know what to do to solve the problem if it is too late and they are already in the trap of the violence.
If women have already fallen into the trap, then I want them to know that there really is hope. It is my hope that if the victim cannot see the light in realizing the true situation that they are a victim of, that a family member or a friend will devour the information in this book and blog and intercede and take the victim by the hand and help lead them out of their dark mire to a new life free of violence for their benefit and the benefit of any children who are also caught up in the dark mire.
This blog and www.familyterror.com site are dedicated to the goal of wanting to give you information that I have gained from my own terrifying experiences and opinions that I have formed after much deliberation.
What do you think? Please comment and share your thoughts.
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