Archive for December, 2009

Have You Noticed…? Teenage texting…Is it stalking …Micro attention or …just A fantasy world?

Monday, December 14th, 2009

Although I want to encourage industry of all kinds, there is a tech item being used by the teenagers that scares me for their future wellbeing.

In a short conversation the other day with a young man, his cell phone notified him at least 10 times that he had a text.  I asked him if this happened all the time and he replied, YES.  It was a girl texting him over and over again.

This made me aware of the dangers that could lurk in the future, as texting is used to condition young people so they may become CONTROL FREAKS (text stalkers) or easily become the victim of a CONTROL FREAK.

These young adults should not have to answer to anyone but their parents or caretakers about “where they are and what they are doing” and also this may constitute “peer pressures, run amuck”.  These are exactly the techniques a domestic violent criminal employs to gain absolute control of their victim.  Now, texting can be used as their stalking weapon of choice, thus making the abuser capable of constantly having their abusive thumb on the victim’s whereabouts and activities.  Is this appropriate?  Or Whack-O behavior?

Tell me what you think.

Do you agree with me?

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Monkey see…..Monkey do!!!

Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009

The facts are simple.  If a child watches a behavior repeated over and over again by their parents, that child will consider the behavior acceptable.

We have all heard our children say something that they heard us say.  When we hear them speak those words, we are immediately ashamed because we know they heard us say those words.

When good actions are witnessed and repeated we are proud as peacocks.  But parents must always remember that undesirable actions will also be learned as acceptable by children, when they witness their parent’s actions.

Most every domestically violent crime occurring is one that an adult witnessed happening in their homes when they were a child.

Most every domestically violent crime victim has witnessed their parent be victim of the same crime when they were a child.

Especially, when something is done over and over again….

How many times do you think a behavior needs to be seen happening before it is remembered by a child?  We don’t know, but what we do know is that the more times that domestic violence crimes are witnessed the better chance that it will be a learned for the child to repeat the behavior when they become adults.

This is one of the supporting reasons why domestic violence crimes are increasing in numbers with each generation having families of their own.

For the children’s sake we must make changes.

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